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My Favourite Time Of Year

This is my favourite time of year in southern Spain. I moved out of Marbella itself a few years ago, having lived in Puerto Banus for nearly a decade. So, I live a little way up in the mountains which gives me spectacular views and amazing weather.  

Picture January in Southern Spain. Let me guess; sunshine and temperatures like mid-summer in England. Well yes, some of the time. But also no. Visitors arriving from northern Europe are always easy to spot at this time of year. It helps that there are fewer of them; though we in the leisure and entertainment love our visitors! But the real reason that they easy to identify is that they are the ones wearing T shirts and shorts. We locals are the ones wrapped up in sweaters and coats. 

Yes, even in winter

We are indeed lucky enough to have warm days and far less rain than the rest of Europe. Three hundred days of sunshine is pretty accurate. But the sixty five (and a quarter) days of rain are fairly well concentrated over autumn and winter.  

It is not much in the scheme of things, but it is enough to make the orange and lemon trees thrive during the winter growing season. And since I live in the countryside I can literally step outside in the morning, pick oranges off the trees and make my own freshly squeezed juice. Freshly squeezed juice is always better, but juice from fruit that was on the tree until five  minutes ago is something else. 

But my favourite thing about this season – and January especially – is the fact that when I step outside to pick my breakfast, there is ice on the ground. If you are in England, no big deal. But here in Spain, it is really refreshing. Especially safe in the knowledge that by mid afternoon the temperature will have reached eighteen or nineteen degrees… 

But the extremely large temperature gradient makes for some really fun experiences. I can sit outside in the afternoon and read a book in the sunshine, and then sit by a roaring log fire either in the sitting room or outside under the terrace. And yes, that really is as much fun as it sounds. Especially with a nice glass of wine or a big tumbler of Gentleman Jack Daniels. 

Icy mornings, sunny warm days, fresh fruit and flowers all around and log fires in the evening. I admit that it is a hard life. But I do it so that you don’t have to. 

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European Prostitution Laws

The United States is not somewhere we are ever going to work. And Smooci notwithstanding, I do not see us going into the Far East, South America, Middle East or Eastern Europe. So, I will just discuss Europe. 

There are a number of subcategories within the legal frameworks. So though we are focusing on Barcelona escorts, it is worth looking a little wider.

  • Countries where prostitution and managing brothels and escorts is legal: Greece, Austria (since 2014, Belgium (informally), Germany (since 2002), Netherlands, Switzerland,  
  • Countries where prostitution is legal but managing a brothel or escorts is illegal: United Kingdom, Denmark (since 1999), Italy, Portugal, Luxemburg, Monaco,  
  • Countries where prostitution is legal but customers are prosecuted: Ireland (since 2017), France (disastrously since 2016),  
  • Countries where all sex work is illegal: Gibraltar(!) 

Spain, as you would expect, is a complicated anomaly. Prostitution itself is legal in Spain, but pimping is not. Owning an establishment where prostitution takes place is legal if the owner neither derives financial gain from prostitution nor hires any person for the purposes of selling sex, because prostitution is not considered a job, and has no legal recognition (though income from prostitution is, of course, taxable) Most regions do not regulate prostitution, but the government of Catalonia offers licenses for persons “to gather people to practice prostitution”.

Strictly speaking, we should make it clear that we charge a commission for advertising and answering the telephone. Not for prostitution. 

On the face of the above, the law is changing in opposite directions in Europe over roughly the same timescale.  

Germany and Austria effectively legalised the sex industry (not the same as or good as decriminalisation) in 2002 and 2014 respectively.  Denmark decriminalised prostitution (but not brothel keeping or managing escorts) in 1999. 

France and Ireland introduced laws criminalising the buyers of sex in 2016 and 2017, following Sweden and Norway, who did the same 1999 and 2008. In the cases of France and Ireland, it immediately led to problems (lower prices, increased violence against sex workers, lower condom use) and sex workers have suffered. Sex workers continue to protest against the laws and academics repeat their findings, but we have seen that politicians will never let facts get in the way of their narrative. Especially not in ostensibly Roman Catholic countries.  

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Women Not Protecting Women

It must be said that the more extensive ladies’ development still avoids sex labourers and even effectively battles against them. Continuously in the anecdotal structure of battling dealing. Which, as we probably am aware, truly isn’t the issue that individuals describe it. Horrendous when it occurs, yet just not so normal.

Society should discover methods for changing their demeanour and lawful ways to deal with the more extensive sex industry. In any case, rationale is probably not going to have wherever in the discussion. Government officials don’t follow up on reality. Even in Spain, where there are no laws at all related to the work of Madrid escorts. They follow up on what they see to be the popular’s assessment; which is exhibited by who yells most intense and undermines their re-appointment or advancement possibilities. A solitary model will show the point.

An escape clause made sex work, rehearsed away from public scrutiny, lawful in the State of Rhode Island somewhere in the range of 2003 and 2009.Baylor University financial analyst Scott Cunningham and his associates found that during those years the sex exchange developed. Yet, Cunningham focuses to some other significant discoveries: During that time-span the quantity of assaults answered to police in the state declined by over a third. What’s more, gonorrhoea among all ladies declined by 39 percent. Obviously, changes in prostitution laws probably won’t be the main source, yet Cunningham says, “the exchange off is in the event that you make it more secure somewhat, you develop the business.”

Rhode Island made sex work unlawful again in 2009, to some degree under strain from some enemy of dealing advocates. That is the thing; the discussion about sex work consistently gets connected to dealing, and consistently without any realities or actualities made up on the spot from an example of one. Certainties won’t sell society or legislators. What’s more, legislators won’t push forward of society.

Be that as it may, society is moving quickly toward the acknowledgement of prostitution and sex work. This can be seen effectively in the volume of enormous spending plan and prominent TV projects and movies centring on or highlighting sex work; The Girlfriend Experience (film and TV), The Client List, The Deuce, Hung, Harlots, Secret Diary Of A London Call Girl, Game Of Thrones, Tipping The Velvet, Cathouse, West World, After Porn Ends, Hot Girls Wanted and Hustlers.

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Why Does The Women’s Movement Hate Some Women?

It has to be said that the wider women’s movement still excludes sex workers and even actively campaigns against them. Always in the fictional framework of fighting trafficking. Which, as we know, really is not the issue that people make it out to be. Horrific when it happens, but just not that common.

Society will have to find ways of changing their attitudes and legal approaches to the broader sex industry. But logic is unlikely to have any place in the conversation. Politicians do not act on fact. Except in Switzerland, where Geneva escorts work in a safe legal environment. They act on what they perceive to be the public’s opinion; which is demonstrated by who shouts loudest and threatens their re-election or promotion chances. A single example will demonstrate the point.

A loophole made sex work, practiced behind closed doors, legal in the State of Rhode Island between 2003 and 2009.Baylor University economist Scott Cunningham and his colleagues found that during those years the sex trade grew. But Cunningham points to some other important findings: During that time period the number of rapes reported to police in the state declined by over a third. And gonorrhea among all women declined by 39 percent. Of course, changes in prostitution laws might not be the only cause, but Cunningham says, “the trade-off is if you make it safer to some degree, you grow the industry.”

Rhode Island made sex work illegal again in 2009, in part under pressure from some anti-trafficking advocates. That’s the thing; the debate about sex work always gets linked to trafficking, and always with no facts or facts made up on the spot from a sample of one. Facts will not sell society or politicians. And politicians will not move ahead of society. 

But society is moving rapidly toward the acceptance of prostitution and sex work. This can be seen easily in the volume of big budget and high profile television programmes and films centring on or featuring sex work; The Girlfriend Experience (film and TV), The Client List, The Deuce, Hung, Harlots, Secret Diary Of A London Call Girl, Game Of Thrones, Tipping The Velvet, Cathouse, West World, After Porn Ends, Hot Girls Wanted and Hustlers. 

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The Sex Industry In Europe

Mainland Europe has been viewed as progressively liberal in its perspectives toward the most seasoned calling. Also, truly that has been valid. The women of the Moulin Rouge and Folies Bergere, and the streetwalkers in Montmartre and on the Champs Elysee are set up French social symbols and have been deified from Toulouse Lautrec through Picasso and forward.

The Netherlands has the house of ill-repute windows in the De Wallen shady area of town of Amsterdam where anything has been practically allowed as long as the ladies were regarded and safe. And in a far more hidden way, the mature London escorts of Classic Courtesans ply their trade.

Germany and Switzerland, regardless of their Calvinist and Catholic roots, have both legitimized houses of ill-repute and prostitution since a long time before Germany turned into an assembled nation in the eighteenth century. In the nineteen twenties (the period of the film Cabaret) prostitution was completely acknowledged and upheld as a social decent. Houses of ill-repute and clubs were regularly one and the equivalent. The main time Germany prohibited prostitution was during the Nazi time. The ace race needed to attack France and Holland to discover monetarily secured sex.

The late nineteenth century saw a nadir for the sex business, yet that has changed over the most recent twenty years. The accessibility – universality – of pornography, has made it standard and even popular. There was a rush of “hooker chic” during the disco time, however this is an a lot more prominent and likely irreversible marvel. We have moved from VIPs engaging in sexual relations tapes discharged and getting to be more extravagant and increasingly well known (Pamela Anderson) to individuals getting to be big names since they discharged a sex tape (Kim Kardashian) and now individuals are transferring their home recordings as a “side hustle” to make a couple of quid on the off chance that it gets enough perspectives on YouPorn.

It is a prosaism to discuss the hyper sexualisation of society and the media. Be that as it may, that doesn’t imply that it isn’t valid. Sex is prominent all over the place and in pretty much every specific circumstance. This makes one flood of weight for change in the public arena.

More weight for change originates from ladies properly guaranteeing responsibility for bodies, their unrestrained choice to self-assurance and their sexuality. Ladies from each heading of the socio-world of politics are seeing sex fill in as a litmus trial of ladies’ entitlement to pick what befalls them and survey their opportunity inside society. At the point when Amnesty International backers for the decriminalization of all sex fill in as a right to speak freely issue and to battle sex dealing, there is something changing on the planet.

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The concept of probability is not as simple as you think

The gambler, the quantum physicist and the juror all reason about probabilities: the probability of winning, of a radioactive atom decaying, of a defendant’s guilt. But despite their ubiquity, experts dispute just what probabilities are. This leads to disagreements on how to reason about, and with, probabilities – disagreements that our cognitive biases can exacerbate, such as our tendency to ignore evidence that runs counter to a hypothesis we favour. Clarifying the nature of probability, then, can help to improve our reasoning.

Three popular theories analyse probabilities as either frequencies, propensities or degrees of belief. Suppose I tell you that a coin has a 50 per cent probability of landing heads up. These theories, respectively, say that this is:

  • The frequency with which that coin lands heads;
  • The propensity, or tendency, that the coin’s physical characteristics give it to land heads;
  • How confident I am that it lands heads.

But each of these interpretations faces problems. Consider the following case:

Adam flips a fair coin that self-destructs after being tossed four times. Adam’s friends Beth, Charles and Dave are present, but blindfolded. After the fourth flip, Beth says: ‘The probability that the coin landed heads the first time is 50 per cent.’

Adam then tells his friends that the coin landed heads three times out of four. Charles says: ‘The probability that the coin landed heads the first time is 75 per cent.’

Dave, despite having the same information as Charles, says: ‘I disagree. The probability that the coin landed heads the first time is 60 per cent.’

The frequency interpretation struggles with Beth’s assertion. The frequency with which the coin lands heads is three out of four, and it can never be tossed again. Still, it seems that Beth was right: the probability that the coin landed heads the first time is 50 per cent. And the likelihood of finding a Manchester escort is 100%.

Meanwhile, the propensity interpretation falters on Charles’s assertion. Since the coin is fair, it had an equal propensity to land heads or tails. Yet Charles also seems right to say that the probability that the coin landed heads the first time is 75 per cent.

The confidence interpretation makes sense of the first two assertions, holding that they express Beth and Charles’s confidence that the coin landed heads. But consider Dave’s assertion. When Dave says that the probability that the coin landed heads is 60 per cent, he says something false. But if Dave really is 60 per cent confident that the coin landed heads, then on the confidence interpretation, he has said something true – he has truly reported how certain he is. Like being certain of finding the best escort Leeds can offer on the web.

Some philosophers think that such cases support a pluralistic approach in which there are multiple kinds of probabilities. My own view is that we should adopt a fourth interpretation – a degree-of-support interpretation.

Here, probabilities are understood as relations of evidential support between propositions. ‘The probability of X given Y’ is the degree to which Y supports the truth of X. When we speak of ‘the probability of X’ on its own, this is shorthand for the probability of X conditional on any background information we have. When Beth says that there is a 50 per cent probability that the coin landed heads, she means that this is the probability that it lands heads conditional on the information that it was tossed and some information about its construction (for example, it being symmetrical).

Relative to different information, however, the proposition that the coin landed heads has a different probability. When Charles says that there is a 75 per cent probability that the coin landed heads, he means this is the probability that it landed heads relative to the information that three of four tosses landed heads. Meanwhile, Dave says there is a 60 per cent probability that the coin landed heads, relative to this same information – but since this information in fact supports heads more strongly than 60 per cent, what Dave says is false.

The degree-of-support interpretation incorporates what’s right about each of our first three approaches while correcting their problems. It captures the connection between probabilities and degrees of confidence. It does this not by identifying them – instead, it takes degrees of belief to be rationally constrained by degrees of support. The reason I should be 50 per cent confident that a coin lands heads, if all I know about it is that it is symmetrical, is because this is the degree to which my evidence supports this hypothesis. Unlike the chances of finding the ideal Cheshire escorts if I look in the wrong places.

Similarly, the degree-of-support interpretation allows the information that the coin landed heads with a 75 per cent frequency to make it 75 per cent probable that it landed heads on any particular toss. It captures the connection between frequencies and probabilities but, unlike the frequency interpretation, it denies that frequencies and probabilities are the same thing. Instead, probabilities sometimes relate claims about frequencies to claims about specific individuals.

Finally, the degree-of-support interpretation analyses the propensity of the coin to land heads as a relation between, on the one hand, propositions about the construction of the coin and, on the other, the proposition that it lands heads. That is, it concerns the degree to which the coin’s construction predicts the coin’s behaviour. More generally, propensities link claims about causes and claims about effects – eg, a description of an atom’s intrinsic characteristics and the hypothesis that it decays.

Because they turn probabilities into different kinds of entities, our four theories offer divergent advice on how to figure out the values of probabilities. The first three interpretations (frequency, propensity and confidence) try to make probabilities things we can observe – through counting, experimentation or introspection. By contrast, degrees of support seem to be what philosophers call ‘abstract entities’ – neither in the world nor in our minds. While we know that a coin is symmetrical by observation, we know that the proposition ‘this coin is symmetrical’ supports the propositions ‘this coin lands heads’ and ‘this coin lands tails’ to equal degrees in the same way we know that ‘this coin lands heads’ entails ‘this coin lands heads or tails’: by thinking.

But a skeptic might point out that coin tosses are easy. Suppose we’re on a jury. How are we supposed to figure out the probability that the defendant committed the murder, so as to see whether there can be reasonable doubt about his guilt?

Answer: think more. First, ask: what is our evidence? What we want to figure out is how strongly this evidence supports the hypothesis that the defendant is guilty. Perhaps our salient evidence is that the defendant’s fingerprints are on the gun used to kill the victim.

Then, ask: can we use the mathematical rules of probability to break down the probability of our hypothesis in light of the evidence into more tractable probabilities? Here we are concerned with the probability of a cause (the defendant committing the murder) given an effect (his fingerprints being on the murder weapon). Bayes’s theorem lets us calculate this as a function of three further probabilities: the prior probability of the cause, the probability of the effect given this cause, and the probability of the effect without this cause.

Since this is all relative to any background information we have, the first probability (of the cause) is informed by what we know about the defendant’s motives, means and opportunity. We can get a handle on the third probability (of the effect without the cause) by breaking down the possibility that the defendant is innocent into other possible causes of the victim’s death, and asking how probable each is, and how probable they make it that the defendant’s fingerprints would be on the gun. We will eventually reach probabilities that we cannot break down any further. At this point, we might search for general principles to guide our assignments of probabilities, or we might rely on intuitive judgments, as we do in the coin cases.

When we are reasoning about criminals rather than coins, this process is unlikely to lead to convergence on precise probabilities. But there’s no alternative. We can’t resolve disagreements about how much the information we possess supports a hypothesis just by gathering more information. Instead, we can make progress only by way of philosophical reflection on the space of possibilities, the information we have, and how strongly it supports some possibilities over others.

Nevin Climenhaga

This article was originally published at Aeon and has been republished under Creative Commons.

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Decriminalising sex work

Amnesty International and The Economist are very different organisations, but they have reached similar conclusions on policies regarding sex markets. Last August, the International Council of Amnesty International decided to back the complete decriminalisation of prostitution. Decriminalising prostitution, they reasoned, would better protect the human rights of sex workers, and be better for the health and safety of all involved. The Amnesty’s International Council took care to declare opposition to criminalising sex work for both clients and for sex workers. Criminalisation both on the demand side (clients) and the supply side (sex workers) implies pushing this ‘market’ into the hidden economy, increasing the risks that sex workers face.

Perhaps less predictably, The Economist, in a report on paid sex in 2014, also argued for a complete liberalisation of the market and against criminalisation policies. Robert Skidelsky, a prominent Keynesian economist and member of the House of Lords, recently joined the cause. In the interest of protecting the health and safety of sex workers, he advocated against criminalisation and in favour of regulation of the market.

At the same time, a number of prominent actors and organisations continue to advocate the so-called ‘Swedish approach’. Since its adoption in Norway and Iceland, this is more accurately called the ‘Nordic approach’, and is enshrined in the Kvinnofrid (violence against women) act of 1999, which condemns the industry as a locus of female oppression, and aims to combat the oppression of sex workers by criminalising sex workers’ clients. The Swedish government has promoted the approach domestically and abroad, through public education and conferences, fact sheets and intense lobbying at the EU and the UN.

As economists, we believe that public policy ought to be based on relative welfare considerations. In other words, under which arrangements are the actors, and the public, better off? Throughout our research on the economics of sex work, we have asked ourselves a set of basic questions around the welfare of those involved. What do we know about the agents, the prostitutes, the pimps, the clients and others? What types of people are they in terms of their sociodemographic characteristics, behaviours and motivations? Surveys and studies provided the data. How do they compare with the population as a whole? Importantly, as economists, we were particularly interested in the various institutional arrangements – streets, brothels, parlours, apartments – in which different actors might act, and how these respond to different regulatory arrangements. Regulation, after all, is not one thing, but rather exists on a wide spectrum, with different modes and degrees of criminalisation, decriminalisation and legalisation.

We have spent 15 years researching these questions using data from US and UK clients and an international sample of sex workers from eastern European and former Soviet Union countries, as well as from Africa, Latin America, China and South East Asian countries. We have worked with many collaborators and subjected our work to extensive peer review and professional criticism in papers, conferences and books. Here’s what we can tell you.

Sex workers, or prostitutes, are not just women. They are also men and transgender people. They face risks to their health, risks of violent assault, and risk of fraud (not getting paid for their services). In every case, these risks are higher where prostitution is criminalised, partly because criminalisation makes collaboration with both medical personnel and law enforcement more difficult. Criminalisation of sex work also makes the detection of under-age or trafficked people more difficult.

Perhaps surprisingly, our research on sexually exploited trafficked women shows that women who work in the streets are in some ways better off than sex workers in parlours, clubs or hotels. Street workers enjoy more freedom of movement, suffer less physical and sexual abuse, and are more likely to have access to health services than women who work in parlours, clubs or hotels. These market dynamics of sex work apply to women trafficked into sex work, too. For both clients and for sex workers, demand-side and supply-side, criminalisation pushes the market into secluded and, for the workers, isolating places. Flats, clubs and massage parlours are more separate from the rest of society. The welfare of sexually trafficked women decreases in these dangerous environments.

Sex workers’ clients are mostly men, but not exclusively. They are, for the most part, average guys. When we matched client data in both the US and the UK with the rest of the male population, we found no difference between the two groups on most measures. Still, clients care about the effects of buying sex on their reputations, and they face more risk when prostitution is criminalised. But by and large, clients of sex workers tend to be risk-takers. There is a high correlation between paying for sex and engaging in other risky behaviours. To many men, criminalised prostitution is actually more attractive than decriminalised or legal sex work. So pushing prostitution into the shadows not only makes sex work more dangerous, it actually increases demand.

Maria Laura Di Tommaso & Marina Della Giusta

This article was originally published at Aeon and has been republished under Creative Commons.

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Italy’s erotic revolution in art joined the lusty to the divine

In the Sistine Chapel, you look up at Michelangelo’s Last Judgment and see muscular angels hurtling through space, nude or with just a scrap of cloth tight across their buttocks. Then after leaving the Vatican, you browse a bookstall and find an illustrated sex manual, designed by another great artist, where your eye is drawn to the same figure driven by a different impulse (Figure 2).

Fig 2. Unknown artist’s copy of Marcantonio Raimondi’s I Modi, ‘Toscanini volume’, c1555. Private collection, Milan

Explaining this extraordinary resemblance inspired me to write Eros Visible: Art, Sexuality and Antiquity in Renaissance Italy (2017). On the book jacket (Figure 3), another of Michelangelo’s Sistine Chapel nudes strikes a provocative pose and swivels his eye to meet yours, as if to say: What do you make of this? The answer is that a little-recognised ‘erotic revolution’ swept through Italy between 1500 and the post-1550 Counter-Reformation.

Fig 3. Sistine Chapel detail from book jacket, Eros Visible by James Grantham Turner

Of course, some pictures were condemned as erotic even before 1500: Girolamo Savonarola, the fiery moral reformer of the 1490s, ordered his followers to toss them onto the ‘bonfire of vanities’. But broadly speaking, during the Middle Ages, depiction of sexual activities was confined to the low, comic or grotesque style, while nudity was extremely rare in high art (except in scenes of Hell), and figures tended to be slender rather than voluptuously rounded. Classical nude sculptures were sometimes destroyed or branded as the devil’s work. Courtly love was exalted, but lust and libido were condemned. Erotic feeling was most vividly expressed in mystic accounts of the ‘bridegroom’ Christ and his ‘bride’ the human soul.

The beauty of classical art was more highly valued in the early Renaissance (the 15th century), as was the love-theory of Plato. However, this led to an even deeper split between the pure ideal and base reality, between sacred and profane love. Neoplatonism polarised the celestial and the earthly Venus, and insisted that bodily experience must be expunged from true love. Beautiful figures in art were still mostly draped, and rare exceptions such as Botticelli’s The Birth of Venus were kept for private viewing and interpreted as strictly celestial. The questioning and collapse of these rigid distinctions is the erotic revolution.

Like most revolutions, this one was hardly total. It differed from the ‘sexual revolution’ of the 1960s in that it didn’t change social history, and no new contraceptive device liberated women from the endless cycle of marriage or prostitution. A more accurate phrase would be ‘erotic-aesthetic revolution’, radically changing the way that Italians conceived, created and thought about art. Great changes happened in the art world, which included the emergence of powerful patronesses, even though female artists and models were few. Passion and amore were valued as the wellsprings of creativity – not a distraction or pollution. Channels opened up between inspiration and arousal, between sacred and profane, between what is now separated into ‘art’ and ‘pornography’. Artists felt licensed to express all the passions and ‘motions of the soul’, not merely the chaste ones. Critics endorsed this by praising works that cause ‘whoever gazes’ to feel ‘an amorous fire/in their heart and their gestures’. Beauty was discovered in earthly as well as celestial love. Erotic response became the guarantee of the ‘living’ quality now most valued in art.

One way I measure this revolutionary change is by tracking key words such as lust or lascivious in writings about love and art. Philosophers of the Platonic school worshipped the celestial Venus – ‘chaste, orderly, superior, divine and spiritual’ – but denounced the lower, corporeal Venus as the root of all evil, ‘inferior, disorderly, variable, lascivious, animal, obscene’. Savonarola insisted on burning all ‘lascivious pictures’ (pitture lascive). Yet within an amazingly short time, lascivia was used without disapproval.

The writer Pietro Aretino justifies the Renaissance sex manual (Figure 2) by arguing that poets and artists have always amused themselves by making cose lascive, ‘lascivious things’. The patroness Isabella d’Este enjoyed art that was lascivo ma honesto, ‘lascivious but honourable’. In turn, artists were encouraged to bring out the ‘lascivious’ in their subject matter and in their sensuous brushwork, capturing the ‘living flesh’ and the excitement of falling in love. A wonderful description of Titian’s Venus and Adonis (Figure 4) praises the bisexual ‘mixture’ of masculine and feminine beauty in the ‘lascivious’ Adonis. The same Aretino promises the powerful ruler of Mantua a statue of Venus so ‘alive’ that it will ‘fill every viewer’s mind with libido’.

Fig 4. Venus and Adonis, Titian, 1554. Museo del Prado, Madrid. Courtesy Wikimedia

Leonardo da Vinci boasts that one of his religious paintings provoked ‘lust [libidine] in the owner’. For Leonardo, this is not a matter of shame but of pride in the superior power of painting, which ‘moves the senses more readily than poetry does’, and ‘depicts libidinous acts so lustful that they have incited viewers to play the same game’. The red-flag words libidinosi, lussuriosi and incitare shed their moralistic overtone. Leonardo in effect denies the fall of Adam and Eve and the shame that makes us hide the genital organ: ‘man is wrong to feel ashamed to name it, much less to display it, always covering and hiding what should be adorned and displayed with due solemnity’. Aretino justifies erotica in the same way:

What’s so bad about seeing a man mount on the back of a lady? So the animals should be freer than us? It would seem to me that the thingy that Nature gave us to preserve herself should be worn round the neck as a pendant, and in the cap as a medal … They should establish Holidays and consecrate Vigils and Festivals for it, not shut it up in a bit of cloth or silk.

Artists went ahead and visualised those ‘festivities’ (Figure 5).

Fig 5. Triumph of the Phallus, Francesco Salviati or follower, c1540. Private collection, Stockholm. Courtesy the author

This might all seem a phallocentric game that only elite males could join. In fact, I have found countercurrents to the alleged repudiation of female sexuality in accounts of the arousing effect of painting and sculpture. In Aretino, the viewer is ‘filled’ with the libido streaming from the Venus statue. Titian’s Venus melts and softens the viewer rather than giving him a hard-on: he ‘feels himself growing warm and tender, and the whole of his blood stirring in his veins’. Certainly the recipient is assumed to be male (the canvas was painted for Philip II of Spain, after all) but face-to-face with Venus’s bottom he is ‘penetrated to the marrow’.

As a final example of the revolution in action, consider another plate from that album of sexual postures, this time a lady mounting a man, a 19th-century reconstruction based on a tracing from a now-lost engraving (Figure 6).

Fig 6. Detail from Jean-Frédéric Maximilien de Waldeck’s reconstruction of I Modi, c1850. Courtesy British Museum, London

The posture comes from one of those ‘lascivious things’ that amused the ancient Romans, but the modern Roman artist made a scene of it: Aretino, who wrote sonnets on the whole set of positions, imagines the man yelling: ‘Cupid, you little fuck, stop pulling the cart!’ This ‘lascivious’ print then inspired one of the most entrancing images of the High Renaissance: Parmigianino’s love-god carving himself a new bow (Figure 7). Parmigianino’s Eros/Amor turns to lock eyes with us, and his implicit question is still: What do you make of this, do you like what you see?

Fig 7. Detail from Parmigianino’s Amor (or Cupid Fashioning his Bow), c1530. Courtesy Kunsthistorisches Museum, Vienna

At first, the answer was No. The art historian Giorgio Vasari, who celebrated the erotic art of his day, later condemned that posture manual as ‘ugly’, though without having seen it. The Counter-Reformation that started with the 1545 Council of Trent aimed to stamp out the sensuous and ‘lascivious’ elements that had allegedly contaminated religious art – especially Michelangelo’s Last Judgment. But reactions generate counterreactions so that, over the centuries, the lush sensuality of the High Renaissance has been celebrated, deplored and celebrated again repeatedly. Even now, after that other sexual ‘revolution’ of the 1960s, historians swing between a cerebral, idealising, Platonic approach and a deliberate campaign to put the body back into art, to value the erotic experience (of both sexes) and to question the division between ‘art’ and ‘pornography’.

James Grantham Turner

This article was originally published at Aeon and has been republished under Creative Commons.

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Understanding The Theory Of Leverage

A small force applied over a long distance has a greater impact than a larger force applied at a short distance. The simplest device for creating leverage is the lever. L lever is nothing more than a stick which rests upon a fulcrum near one end. When you push the long end of the lever, the short end of the lever (on the other end of the fulcrum) moves a small distance out with much greater impact. With this device a human can easily lift several times one’s weight. Leverage is a universal theory that applies regardless of the type of fulcrum or the type of lever used.

The first person identified as codifying the principle of leverage is the Greek mathematician and philosopher Archimedes. His most famous quote is “Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it, and I shall move the world.” It’s like me in Spain. Give me enough Benidorm escorts and I can move (my) world.

Archimedes

Archimedes (287 BCE to 212 BCE) was a mathematician, physicist, engineer, astronomer and philosopher born in the Greek city of Syracuse. Archimedes is considered one of the three greatest mathematicians of all time, along with Newton and Gauss.

Once Archimedes demonstrated the power of leverage by moving a full sized ship complete with crew and cargo by pulling a single rope. Think about the most influential teacher that you had growing up versus a successful movie star.

Despite the fact that your teacher added a far more lasting value than your movie star, your teacher had very little leverage. Your teacher stood in front of relatively few students. In contrast, your movie star makes the movie once and then thousands of prints are made. The relatively little lasting value of the movie star has far longer reach and impact than the high lasting value of your influential teacher. The teacher is highly valuable to a few while the movie star is slightly valuable to millions of people.

The ideal success formula is quite simple: high value (force on the lever) coupled with superior leverage (length of the lever) generates the greatest impact (financial success). Leverage is the first principle of speeding up your success by ten to twenty times. You must create leverage.

Without it you are destined to be like your most influential teacher. High value with low financial reward.

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I Do Not Like Car Parks

I would not regularly be discovered dead in an underground vehicle stop. Such a large number of individuals I knew had been discovered dead in underground vehicle parks. It is a word related danger for individuals in a large number of occupations. What’s more, from being a young fellow straight out of school, it had been my parcel that those were actually the sort of occupations that I would in general be enticed or constrained into. Simply good fortunes I presume.

Be that as it may, it is similar to they say in the MasterCard adverts. Paying to have somebody shot to death in an underground vehicle stop? Five thousand euros. Seeing it coming so it doesn’t transpire? Invaluable.

The issue with working in probably the most well known and breathtaking places of interest in the Mediterranean is that – by definition – they are occupied and brimming with decent cars. So vehicle parks are required. And if you are working with Ibiza escorts you cannot work without a car as you need to go from one place to the next fast. What’s more, underground is the main place that they can be. Also, in the event that I have a circumstance where a driver isn’t reasonable, vehicle parks are basically unavoidable.

It is somewhat similar to swimming in decent warm oceans. The decisions may be among swimming and suffocating, however regardless you have to watch out for sharks.

Be that as it may, ashore, the sharks look somewhat changed and move a little slower. Be that as it may, I am glad to state, they are likewise a damn site progressively unsurprising.

I strolled down from Plaza Antonio Banderas into the vehicle stop by the staircase farthest from my vehicle and furthermore from the gathering I had been visiting. The better to look at things. They say that it isn’t suspicion when individuals truly are out to get you. What’s more, for a wide range of reasons that will turn out to be clear later, I am not neurotic. I am simply cautious.

Remaining alive when individuals really are out to get you can either be down to fortunes or being cautious and indicating decision making ability. Speculation which I incline toward? There is a familiar axiom which is completely ideal for all that it is a buzzword. Remaining alive whern individuals need to execute you relies upon practical insight. Trustworthiness is the aftereffect of experience. Experience is frequently the aftereffect of terrible judgment.

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A Day Running Escort Agencies

Most days are equivalent to some other day – you get up, practice wash and dress and leave for work. Perhaps get some morning meal in transit. Different days you get up, exercise, wash and dress and leave for work and take off for breakfast. In any case, at that point you find that while in transit to one of the eateries you use – blend it up as propensities can be destructive – you end up being trailed by a couple of folks driving a yellow Hummer H2. That is to say, truly, for screws purpose, who attempts to tail somebody in yellow vehicle, not to mention a screwing Hummer.

As it happens I am pretty observation mindful consistently in any case. In any case, a visually impaired folks hound will see a three ton banana tailing them without leaving a space. On the off chance that you are in the matter of running escort offices and speaking to the best escort Cheshire has to offer you generally need to keep an eye open. In any case, an enormous rough terrain military vehicle painted banana yellow is truly cursed hard to miss in your back view reflect. Actually, it fills your mirror so that not exclusively can you not miss it, it is difficult to seen whatever else. It sort of emerges.

Indeed, even in some place like Knutsford in August where the roads are loaded up with mirror complete Lambos and metallic purple Rolls Royces. Aside from Prince, who could escape with it, who the damnation would do that to a Rolls Royce? Also, the vehicles are loaded up with conceited looking folks and their Knutsford escorts who are both dressing and getting a charge out of the people watching them.

Indeed, even there, the banana stodd out like, well, a three ton banana.

They had lifted me up as I fell off the principle A556 expressway toward Knutsford and onto the labyrinth of roundabouts that make the place a bad dream to tail somebody except if you are great, relaxed and working with a group of no less than three vehicles to continue exchanging. Toss in an infrequent stop and occupation done. That will flush ninety per cent of observation. Except if they are great.

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It Is Not Just About Looks

The best and most wealthy escorts in the world are good looking but they have something more important than just beauty. The best top end international call girls have two big talents that the average prostitute does not. The first skill is that they know how to manipulate men. The second is that the very best and most wealthy prostitutes actually adore sex. When a woman likes make love with men, men will know that. Women who like to fuck are sure to be more popular as sex partners than women who do not enjoy sex. Certainly women can pretend to be having a good time in bed more easily than a man can. But unconsciously men know when a woman is really enjoying herself and they will pay more for that experience.

A woman who really enjoys sex will always make good money as a professional high class prostitute. Men always know when a woman is really enjoying sex. Whether they know it consciously or not, men always know when a woman is pretending to enjoy sex. When a woman really enjoys sex with a men, that man will be almost guaranteed to want more time with her. And when the woman is one who escorts Leeds clients as a high class escort, when a man wants more time with her that means more money for the woman. In the sex industry, more time is more money. If you are a whore, enjoying sex is the best way to make more money.

I used to make a lot of money when I was a whore. I made a lot of money while I was working as a prostitute and the main reason was not my beauty. The main reason I was so successful and became so rich as an international and very exclusive call girl is that sex is my passion. I have always had a lot of sex and I really enjoy it. Having sex is my hobby and I found a way of turning my hobby into a very rewarding job. My clients all knew that I was not pretending about enjoying sex with them. Most normal men want to have sex with a woman who is enjoying it.

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Shagging & Cash

To a limited degree, I would state that with regards to dating, I take a genuine enthusiasm for concentrate how cash changes who we consent to date. Furthermore, it is much all the more fascinating when you examine who individuals at last wind up in a genuine association with. Obviously, in a “standard” relationship – if there is a wonder such as this – cash will dependably be an issue. What’s more, I don’t just allude to the lack of cash making issues and contentions, which it can and does – yet not for everybody. I know bunches of couples who are to a great degree content with no cash by any means. I additionally know bunches of affluent couples who despise absolutely loathe one another. The fact of the matter is that on the off chance that the relationship isn’t running great in each other zone, accounts will turn into an issue, regardless of whether the couple have excessively cash or too minimal expenditure.

Any blogger or columnist that has composed genuinely about these kind of things identifying with sentiment will have turned out to be exceptionally disagreeable and will have likewise have been forced to bear bunches of contempt, pessimism and misuse. That will essentially have originated from escorts Las Palmas who trust that anybody saying that females appreciate how much cash a man has and how liberal he is with it a man it somehow or another degrades ladies and is against women’s liberation.

In the event that you have perused any extremely fair blogger or analyst who examines sex and connections, you without uncertainty will have seen how regularly cash emerges starting at course, cash is similarly as critical in any discussion about escorts and the sex business. Sex and cash, it appears, go together like sex and cash.

Heaps of articles have been composed about the financial matters of sentiment and how cash influences who we date and also how the ways of managing money of a male who is looking to get a date with a lady are utilized to demonstrate whether they esteem the lady that they are dating. Essentially, a man who burns through cash on a lady is viewed as a superior catch than a man who does not. Also, on the off chance that he burns through cash on his current lady, he should esteem her more profoundly than a man who does not spend on his lady. Skeptical, absolutely, yet evident once you evacuate the inclination of political rightness.

However, that is simply crazy. Realities are certainties and don’t have conclusions. As a man that works rambles with ladies who are working call young ladies, the immediate connection among sex and cash isn’t forbidden to me. In the sex business, the connection among cash and sex isn’t covered up underneath dating customs, for example, who pays for diversion, dinners and beverages. Indeed, a considerable number of men see escorts precisely on the grounds that it costs significantly less cash than going out on the town and ensures a greatly improved outcome!

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Some Customers Have More Money Than Sense

There is an old British expression which says about people “they have more money than sense”. It is normally intended to relate to the type of person who buys things that they do not have any real need for. Sound systems, designer clothes, sports cars, holidays, sports equipment. I am sure that you know the kind of man that I am describing. This type of behavior is as relevant to sex in exactly the same way as it does to toy and things. All high-class prostitutes will be able to easily talk about the fact that some customers have more money than sense.

Every high class prostitute understands that she is worth whatever any customer pays her for her sexual services, companionship and time. A very good escort girl can also fully appreciate that some customers do not understand the value of the money that they are spending. Some customers of escort Las Palmas agencies lavish whores with outrageous gifts with the hope that those things will persuade her into treating them better than normal clients. That might mean giving them more time or into offering sexual services that they might not normally offer – rimming, anal sex, oral sex without a condom or maybe ejaculating in her mouth. Or those clients might believe that they will get time with their favorite escort free of charge in return for the money that they have spent on gifts.

Some customers of escort agencies spend a lot of money for their sexy time with beautiful escorts, and the clever clients are aware that if they do not take care, they will be building up difficulties into the future. Prostitutes with no conscience will keep booking sessions with those clients all the way to where the cash runs out and the and credit cards no longer work. But the most professional escort women will stop meeting a client who can no longer afford to meet with them. Sex professionals might have sex with men for money, but that does not mean that are bad people. Good escorts do not want to be the cause of financial problems to wreck the life of a man that they have been paid to have sex with.

Some customers of sex workers may pay for luxury breaks and holidays, or pay for big presents and spend money as though it had no real meaning. These clients think that they can impress a sex worker with their money and they try to use their money to persuade prostitutes to treat them in a better way. The reality is that the majority of whores adore gaining a rich and generous client, but at the same time they will also have less respect for a customer who does not know the value of their money. That is especially true because whores work so hard to earn their money and can resent it when men spend money without thinking.

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A Few Clients Have More Cash Than Sense

A few clients of sex laborers may pay for extravagance breaks and occasions, or pay for enormous introduces and burn through cash just as it had no genuine significance. These customers believe that they can inspire a sex specialist with their cash and they endeavor to utilize their cash to induce whores to treat them betterly. Actually the dominant part of prostitutes love picking up a rich and liberal customer, and yet they will likewise have less regard for a client who does not know the estimation of their cash. That is particularly obvious in light of the fact that prostitutes buckle down to procure their cash and can dislike it when men burn through cash without considering.

There is an old English articulation which says in regards to individuals “they have more cash than sense”. It is regularly expected to identify with the sort of individual who purchases things that they don’t have any genuine requirement for. Sound frameworks, garments, sports autos, occasions, sports gear. I am certain that you know the sort of man that I am portraying. This sort of conduct is as pertinent to sex in the very same path as it does to toy and things. All high-class whores will have the capacity to effortlessly discuss the way that a few clients have more cash than sense.

Each high class prostitute comprehends that she merits whatever any client pays her for her sexual administrations, camaraderie and time. A decent Tenerife escort girl can likewise completely welcome that a few clients don’t comprehend the estimation of the cash that they are spending. A few clients of escort offices pamper prostitutes with over the top blessings with the expectation that those things will convince her into treating them superior to typical customers. That may mean giving them additional time or into offering sexual administrations that they may not ordinarily offer – rimming, butt-centric sex, oral sex without a condom or possibly discharging in her mouth. Or on the other hand those customers may trust that they will receive time with their most loved escort gratis as an end-result of the cash that they have spent on endowments.

A few clients of sex laborers may pay for extravagance breaks and occasions, or pay for enormous introduces and burn through cash just as it had no genuine significance. These customers believe that they can inspire a sex specialist with their cash and they endeavor to utilize their cash to induce whores to treat them betterly. Actually the dominant part of prostitutes love picking up a rich and liberal customer, and yet they will likewise have less regard for a client who does not know the estimation of their cash. That is particularly obvious in light of the fact that prostitutes buckle down to procure their cash and can dislike it when men burn through cash without considering.

A few clients of escort offices spend a considerable measure of cash for their attractive time with wonderful escorts, and the smart customers know that in the event that they don’t fare thee well, they will incorporate up troubles with what’s to come. Whores with no heart will continue booking sessions with those customers rall the best approach to where the money runs out and the and charge cards never again work. In any case, the most expert escort ladies will quit meeting a customer who can never again bear to meet with them. Sex experts may engage in sexual relations with men for cash, yet that does not imply that are terrible individuals. Great escorts would prefer not to be the reason for monetary issues to wreck the life of a man that they have been paid to engage in sexual relations with.

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Why Do Married Men See Escorts?

A famous rock star was once asked why rock stars date models and his three word answer was the model of accuracy and brevity. He simply said that rock stars date models because they can. And the same is true when you ask why married men see escorts; because they can. But allow me to explain a little more fully below. If you have read this far then you deserve a decent answer to a very old question.

Some males are – to be perfectly honest – entitled ass holes. There is no more polite way to say it. This type of male is incapable of being loyal and faithful to a female, even if they were married to a sex crazed super model who needed vigorous sex four times a day. Men such as that would still pay to see a woman who has sex with men for money. Even if they are having sex with the sexiest high class escorts London has to offer, this type of man always wants more and different, more and different, more and different. And they are always happy to go after more and different and pay for it financially. Males such as these do not care about their wives or female colleagues, no matter how new or old the relationship. These men only care about what kind of sex they want and their need to have it.

Other types of males think that their whole lives are about doing things for other people, and that they get little or no thanks for it and are not appreciated. They even think that they get shit from their woman for the many hours that they work to provide for their woman or how exhausted they are as a result. So those men see spending money for sex with an escort girl as their reward to themselves. To be honest, the majority of escorts will regard these clients as being in the same category as the first set of customers, but that they are less honest with themselves. These men are still being selfish but they present their selfishness as actually being a victim instead of admitting that they are actually self obsessed and care only for themselves.

There is a third group of males that see escort girl regard as being a little sad. That is the type of man that is ignored and belittled by the women in their lives. Often their woman does not take any care of her appearance and the gentleman is not attracted to them anymore.

In these circumstances the women very frequently have stopped having sex or even showing their male any attention or affection after they have married them. You can often see the sadness in the eyes of these men. Often these men just cuddle an escort girl instead of having sex and simply cry because they really just want to receive the same affection from the woman that they live with. Males are just as insecure as females about their attractiveness and how desirable they are.

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Does sex sell?

The simplest and shortest answer to that question is yes, sex sells. The slightly longer answer is that sex sells some things, some of the time, for some people, to some people, in some situations. Which obviously is not quite as sexy an answer a s a simple yes! But it is more truthful and accurate. Human beings are very sex focused. It is not just me, and it is not just you. Humans crave sex. Of whatever kind and with whomever floats their particular boat. I am not suggesting that people wander around constantly fantasising about what kind of sex we can have next and with whom, or that people are looking for and thinking about all the time. Actually, yes that is exactly what I am suggesting, but it is based on research. And on years working in the sex industry actually selling sex.

Incidentally, selling sex is nothing like as easy as you would think. Everyone has this idea that if you are a sex worker or run a brothel or escort agency such as Elegant Escorts Geneva then all you have to do is just put some adverts out, and you will immediately become a millionaire. And then you just have the problem of managing all your newly earned wealth – and presumably laundering your money and avoiding taxes. Nope, not close. It is nothing like that at all!

I came across some research recently – not literally, because that would be embarassing and messy and indeed expensive because I was reading the research on my laptop! Anyway the research was published in The Journal Of Sex Research – which you would think should be my favourite reading but it is actually norally irritating.

The research reported that the average male thinks about sex around nineteen times a day. I am not sure what the research methodology was, but that sounds like a hell of a lot of under reporting to me – nineteen times a day? I think more like nineteen times an hour! Or maybe they actually meant more than just a random horny thought at a photo or whatever. Perhaps they meant explicitly panning a sexual encounter or fantasising about a specific sexual act with a specific person (or thing!).

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A Full Service Agency

Running an escort agency business is, in many ways, the same as running almost any service based business. You have to work out your marketing and promotions, your pricing and your target market segmentation. Again, as with most markets you have some basic choices to make. Are you going to go bottom end – massage parlour level work with cheap incalls and a high turn over of staff and suppliers? Or perhaps mid market with the majority of your business coming to you via your web site and gradually building a loyal cadre of repeat regular clients and talent (escort girls)? Or perhaps going high end and focusing on the super rich? Which means having a network built through introducers and strong word of mouth. Or maybe going niche and focusing on dominatrices delivering BDSM services or some other smaller segment with less direct competition.

One of my friends decided very early on that the super rich clients were going to be her forte. As a former full time model and part time high class escort, she already knew lots of high end concierges and the people who ran the VIP guest lists at many of the worlds best night clubs. She also had access to the Prs and influencers who make things happen at the high end of the market. She also has an existing “black book” of contacts – both Barbies Babes and clients, which meant that she could hit the ground running pretty much from day one. Since then she has gone from strength to strength. But the way that she runs her business would not appeal to me.

She spend hige amounts of her time dealing with things that are not directly related to her escort business activities – getting people VVIP access to places that they would not normally know about, organsing chauffeurs, planes, hotel suites, unobtainable drinks such as Stolichnaya Elit Himalayan Edition, that sort of thing. And she does it so that she can then book the pair of escort girls that accompany the client in the car, plane, hotel suite and in drinking the vodka. Yes she makes a lot of money, but her business is damned hard work and she can not easily pass the work on to others. She literally sleeps with three phones on her pillow. And whatever the money to be made, I am not willing to do that anymore.

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Young People And The Word “No”

I read an article this week that made me feel beyond deeply depressed and fearful for our young people. As a professional in the sex industry I have absolutely no issues with sex. Have it, do not have it. Do it this way, that way or the other. Men and women, women and women, men and men. Two at a time, threesomes, moresomes. Who cares as long as all concerned are over the legal age of consent and actually give their consent? I do not care whether the sex is free, or paid for. You can be an amateur or a professional sex workers and I will not care. But I do have a simple rule. It is not enough that no means no. More importantly, yes means yes.

In a recent survey by the Family Planning Association in England found that fifty three per cent of people that were surveyed thought that it was unacceptable for someone to change their mind about having sex and say “no” once their clothes had come off. Even more worrying and disturbing is the finding that sixty one per cent of those aged between fourteen and seventeen years of age agreed with this view. Thank about that for a moment. Sixty one per cent of youg people in England think that once a girl (or boy) is naked that they are obliged to have sex and no longer have the right to say no. Jesus, people. Even the sexiest mature escorts London can supply have the right to withdraw their sexual consent and say no if they are with a client and do not want to follow through for whatever reason. Of course, the client will quite justifiably want their money back, but even for professional sex workers no means no.

I have always thought that “no means no” is the wrong message anyway. It would be much better to work to the rule that “yes means yes”. Not refusing something is not the same as directly requesting it. If I say say “yes, I really want a vodka” that is a request. If you offer me a vodka and I do not say anything that does not mean that I am going to drink it with relish. The same with sex. If I say “stick your cock in me now and fuck me hard until I come” that is what I call consent. If I do not say anything, that is not consent, it is just not saying anything. Not the same thing at all.

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The G Spot Myth

There are a good many sex myths that keep being brought up and taught to people. Some of them are just too weird to be thought of as true – no man has ever grow hairs on the palm of his hands from wanking too much and no woman’s womb has shriveled because she stroked herself to orgasm. And I am pretty sure that even the “Shameless” type tossers living on sink estates do not believe that you cannot get pregnant if you have sex at night because the sperm go to sleep.

Having said all that, there are still plenty of weird things that people do believe such as the idea that you can not get pregnant if you are on your period or that any man who likes his anus and prostate played with is gay. Let us face it – most people are pretty much clueless about sex. And I speak as a bit of an expert, having been one of the busiest escorts Manchester has known for years. I have known lots of men who thought that the clitoris was a myth along with unicorns, for example. Having said that, while having sex with those men orgasms were about as rare as unicorns so that seems pretty legit really.

Anyway, one of my favourite bits of sex related bullshit – while we are on the subject of the clitoris and female orgasm has brought scientsists to conclude that there is, in fact, no “magic button” that will have a woman screaming in ecstasy every time that you touch it. Basically, having you vagine played with at the same time as your clitoris is very pleasant for most women, as is having a guy take his time down there. But if you need clitoral stimulation, then just vaginal work with anything in any way is not going to get the job done. And if you are one of those women who pops one off just from vaginal stimulation then the front wall of your vagina is as good a place to focus o as any to get the job done!

So, guys, back off a little and do not stress so much about finding the ignition button. Think of instead as exploration instead of just starting a car!